Growth is a necessity of life ,without growth life would be meaningless .Everybody would go through the processes of growth as it is a never ending process .
The essence of growth is for survival purposes we need growth to survive to continue the cycle of nature.A baby gets born ,the next minute he or she is crawling ,walking the other minute he or she is a grown young man or woman .This cycle happens to all living beings …Growth is very important as without it nature comes to a standstill .It is the core of survival.
However it is a general fact growth comes with pains ,tears and sometimes happiness as well.Growth is a combination of the two extreme ends .Imagine that little boy wanting to crawl ,he then rises up to take his first step,what happens ?he sometimes fall as a result of he wanting to take his first step .
With all these associated with growth ,humans need to really be cautious on our journey of growth ,growth here could mean spiritual ,physical ,intellectual etc.An individual right from his maturation must cultivate the habit of growing individually without the aid of anyone ,some life lessons I have learnt is that until an individual is able to stand on his own ,fight his own battles ,faces his own fears and conquers it ,growth would still come but sad to say it usually growth without lustre
We must grow individually such that we do not grow attached to anyone whether spiritually,emotionally ,financially etc,we need to learn to rely on our own selves ,seek help from God ,develop our individuality until then we can blossom to help others with our gifts .
Let take an inspiration from nature typically “the tree”, the tree stands alone on its own roots it only dependence on an outer source is sunlight and water .The tree blossoms very well when they stand alone rather than leaning on another tree for survival .Why then do we not learn from the tree .
There is sooo much freedom in knowing we got to that lofty positions without any body’s help but our own hands and the help of a divine being .And there is no freedom compared to that. (A reality I wished I knew earlier)
Someone might ask we all need somebody at one point in time of our lives.Yes we do ,those are the most difficult times of our lives at which anyone at all helping us at that crucial moment can take opportunity to take advantage of us ,during those hard times we need to open our eyes very wide and activate our other senses during those hard times to detect the fakers who are only in to kill us with their treacherous smile.
Wherever or whoever you are, you have being blessed with all all those innate capabilities to help you go through any difficulty in life,the human being is programmed such that he can surmount any difficulty that he encounters without the help of anyone .
Unfortunately most people do not know that (including me as well )some of us realised these innate capabilities late .We thought at all moments of trying times we need to consult with that person we call our ‘confidante’ to aid solve our problems but the hard truth is most of these soo called ‘confidantes’ are just in to take advantage of situations and even you the person.
Let learn to heal by our own selves, walk our own journeys, sail our own seas when the trying moments comes ,and when we reach those lofty heights without the aid of anyone but our own selves and God,my dear you would understand what true freedom means and what power you wield .
I end here with much pleasure and a poem by Khalil Gibran that inspired me to write this piece .Hope it inspires someone out there.
“Let there be spaces in your togetherness
And let the winds of the heaven dance between you
Love one another but make not a bond of love .Let it rather be a moving sea between the shore of your soul
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of lute are alone though they quiver with the same music
Give your hearts but not into each other’s keeping .For only the hand of life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together for the pillars of the temple stand apart.
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each others shadow”